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真正的痛苦,不是面对痛苦,而是试着“解释”痛苦 (豆瓣 INFP的淡色彼岸小组)

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","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"4jr5r","text":"没有任何一种觉醒是不带着痛苦的。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":12,"length":2,"key":0}],"data":{}},{"key":"bvntc","text":"快乐,轻松,随意的日子,总是过得安逸,却总让人心中有一种不踏实感。会觉得很多真正该做的事情,并没有做。期待中的成长和变化并没有发生。纵然这些日子色彩绚烂,却少了些深度,少了些力度。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":2,"key":1},{"offset":3,"length":2,"key":2},{"offset":9,"length":2,"key":3},{"offset":16,"length":2,"key":4},{"offset":43,"length":2,"key":5},{"offset":51,"length":2,"key":6},{"offset":55,"length":2,"key":7},{"offset":58,"length":2,"key":8}],"data":{}},{"key":"49qhf","text":"人开始觉醒的征兆,是承认并允许自己,正在感觉到“痛”。我们并非感觉不到痛苦,感觉不到有一些东西不对,自己还没发挥完全的能力。而恰恰是,我们习惯了以思维和大脑的种种解释,暂时性地掩盖痛苦,用编织故事,来掩盖感觉。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":27,"style":"BOLD"}],"entityRanges":[{"offset":20,"length":3,"key":9},{"offset":31,"length":4,"key":10},{"offset":38,"length":2,"key":11},{"offset":45,"length":2,"key":12},{"offset":56,"length":2,"key":13},{"offset":59,"length":2,"key":14},{"offset":69,"length":2,"key":15},{"offset":73,"length":2,"key":16},{"offset":96,"length":2,"key":17}],"data":{}},{"key":"fiv3u","text":"  我们究竟是在直面痛苦,并找寻解决的方式呢?","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":19,"length":2,"key":18}],"data":{}},{"key":"eh0c7","text":"  还是在收集各种知识、理论,以期待合理化,告诉自己这些痛苦和问题,事实上并不存在呢?","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":9,"length":2,"key":19},{"offset":12,"length":2,"key":20},{"offset":22,"length":4,"key":21},{"offset":31,"length":2,"key":22},{"offset":34,"length":3,"key":23},{"offset":39,"length":2,"key":24}],"data":{}},{"key":"cs4o4","text":"  无论是冥想的练习,还是我的文章,我们绝对不做的一件事情,就是强化自己“解释”的习惯。生命本身,存在本身的痛苦,都是客观存在的,所有的哲学和神棍理论,走到最后都只是“人啊,认识你自己”。一切从面对开始。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":15,"length":2,"key":25},{"offset":44,"length":2,"key":26},{"offset":68,"length":2,"key":27}],"data":{}},{"key":"abmb6","text":"  面对,意味着不解释,不敷衍,不需要为此找任何借口。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":19,"length":2,"key":28}],"data":{}},{"key":"3ee8","text":"  意味着承认痛苦,而不是开始洗脑说,我要积极思考,我要启动吸引力。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":21,"length":2,"key":29},{"offset":23,"length":2,"key":30}],"data":{}},{"key":"5ne28","text":"正确的认知,就是不偏狭的认知,不执著于自己非常有限所认识到的“美好”、“快乐”或者“善”,而是在接受突破自己原有的“错误”时,能以一个更宏大的角度,来看待所谓美好或者丑恶,善恶,好坏,都并不是事物的本质,它们同时都存在,也同时都不存在。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":2,"key":31},{"offset":16,"length":2,"key":32},{"offset":31,"length":2,"key":33},{"offset":58,"length":2,"key":34},{"offset":83,"length":2,"key":35},{"offset":96,"length":2,"key":36},{"offset":104,"length":2,"key":37}],"data":{}},{"key":"bge5e","text":"  一切你感受到的痛苦,只是痛苦自身,除此之外的一切都是我们添加给它的标签。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":5,"length":2,"key":38}],"data":{}},{"key":"1v85u","text":"  认识到自己的愚蠢,是一种痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":12,"length":4,"key":39}],"data":{}},{"key":"cslrr","text":"  面对自己的无能,是一种痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"a3jbm","text":"  接受自己过往做了很多错事,浪费了很多生命,是一种痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":6,"length":2,"key":40}],"data":{}},{"key":"b5f80","text":"  不责怪任何人,不试图解释这一切为什么发生,抛弃对老板,对原生家庭,对社会环境的指责,也就意味着,背上自己的锅,承认此时此刻我的痛苦。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":26,"length":2,"key":41},{"offset":32,"length":2,"key":42},{"offset":36,"length":2,"key":43},{"offset":38,"length":2,"key":44},{"offset":59,"length":4,"key":45}],"data":{}},{"key":"e030h","text":"  承认此时此刻,我正在经历我的痛苦,是一种让人从“解释”、“推脱”的思维中跳出来,而真正回到当下的练习方式。我在当下直面自己,直面让自己痛苦的种种感受,正是接纳生命本身渴望成长和变化的力量。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":12,"length":2,"key":46},{"offset":93,"length":2,"key":47}],"data":{}},{"key":"ej8pg","text":"  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华丽的借口,使我们虚弱。唯有真实的痛苦,使我们走向健壮。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[{"offset":16,"length":2,"key":61}],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{"0":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/tongku/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/tongku/"}},"1":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/kuaile/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/kuaile/"}},"2":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/qingsong/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/qingsong/"}},"3":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/rizi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/rizi/"}},"4":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/anyi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/anyi/"}},"5":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/shiqing/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/shiqing/"}},"6":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/qidai/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/qidai/"}},"7":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/chengchang/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/chengchang/"}},"8":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/bianhua/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/bianhua/"}},"9":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/"}},"10":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/"}},"11":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ganjue/"}},"12":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/dongxi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/dongxi/"}},"13":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/wanquan/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/wanquan/"}},"14":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/nenli/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/nenli/"}},"15":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/xiguan/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/xiguan/"}},"16":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/siwei/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/siwei/"}},"17":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/aiqinggushi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/aiqinggushi/"}},"18":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/fangshi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/fangshi/"}},"19":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/zhishi/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/zhishi/"}},"20":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/lilun/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/lilun/"}},"21":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ziji/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/ziji/"}},"22":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/wenti/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/wenti/"}},"23":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/shishishang/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/shishishang/"}},"24":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/cunzai/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/zhuanti/cunzai/"}},"25":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/"}},"26":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/shengming/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/shengming/"}},"27":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/zhexue/","target":"_blank","url":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/zhexue/"}},"28":{"type":"LINK","mutability":"MUTABLE","data":{"href":"http://www.wenzhangba.com/huati/weici/","target":"_blank","u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