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,“不走寻常路”;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"3odeu","text":"优秀的书面表达能力(喜欢写作,但离优秀还有一段距离);","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"697do","text":"喜欢一个人工作,在团队中可能出现问题(一直都想做自由撰稿人);","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"66ft8","text":"重视深厚真诚的友情(喜欢真诚的朋友,一旦意识到对方不真诚,会立即退缩);","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"cpsnv","text":"希望别人能看到并认可真正的自己(申请这个公号的目的就是这个)。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"ba8ms","text":"INFP型的人可能适合从事的职业:","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"b8d9d","text":"作家;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"3tlho","text":"咨询师/社工;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"cvvsa","text":"教师/教授;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"9eg5s","text":"心理学家;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"5nqve","text":"精神病学家;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"1i3f9","text":"音乐家;","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2t944","text":"神职人员/宗教工作者。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2cbni","text":"看到这个列表,我不禁哑然失笑。适合INFP的大部分工作对人的天赋要求很高,而且最好是从小开始培养。而现实中INFP,大多像我这样,等到自我意识觉醒的时候,年纪已经很大了,早已错过最佳发展期。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"d3gf7","text":"基于好奇,我在豆瓣上查到有两本书是关于MBTI的:《请理解我》和《天生不同:人格类型识别和潜能开发》,但前者买不到,于是我马上买了后者。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2memn","text":"我特别仔细看了书中关于INFP的部分,每一句都像是在我心上狠狠地开了一枪:","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"c5r34","text":"内倾情感型的人非常温暖热情,但这种热情只有在彼此熟悉之后才会表现出来。他们将自己的温暖包裹在内,就像穿着一件毛皮大衣一样。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"1v2uv","text":"内倾情感型的人效率高低取决于他们能否在工作中找到相应的出口来表达自己的信念和理想。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"5qb4l","text":"INFP型的人会因为“直觉”的乐观估计而低估现实的严峻性,而这种低估也会使其自信心遭受打击。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"bfucb","text":"书中在描述内倾型的人格特征时,还有一句话深得我心:只有在理解了生活之后才能开始生活。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"1nomh","text":"总的来讲,INFP型的人会表现出明显的理想主义的人格特征,大部分时候行为模式不是受利益驱动,而是受内心的价值观驱动。只有认为这件事和我们内心的价值取向一致时,才会决定去做。因此,当我们做决定时,特别需要“意义”和“理想”来支撑,但在某些人看来会显得很做作。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"c1muc","text":"其实人和人原本就天生不同,这一点在我们这个思想割裂的时代体现得更明显。现在重大的社会新闻下面,几乎都有不同阵营的网友在对骂。想要理解这个时代,似乎更难了。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"fn2em","text":"这本书就是帮助我们理解自己以及他人,然后做出相对正确的决定,而不是单纯被时代所裹挟。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"3tt8o","text":"在了解了自己的人格特征之后,不管是上大学时挑专业,还是毕业后找工作,以及结婚时选伴侣,都会有更明确的目标和方向。其实,对于普通人而言,我们的人生容错率是很低的。一旦在关键的时间节点上走错一步,人生几乎就毁了一半。如果可以早一点明确自己的天赋所在,并顺应自己的天赋作出选择,人生会顺利很多。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"aj128","text":"至于我自己,由于已经一错再错,人生失去了转圜的空间,只能继续挣扎着生活了。","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"1r3ig","text":" 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